Hi Folks – This piece about child friendship is fascinating to me. I’d love you to ponder what to me is the main point: Isn’t it easier to make a friend while working on something together (especially something big), than while simply talking about friendship?
A parallel thought: If you’ve ever taken a class on writing novels, plays, or anything dramatic (for me it was musicals), you know the credo: “Show, don’t tell!” Don’t have Romeo just yammering about how much he loves Juliet and wants to spend his life with her and how really sorry he’d feel if anything bad ever happened to her… SHOW their passion. Have them DO things. Have them change their lives, not just chat, chat, chat.
In the letter below, by Lisa R. of Arlington, Mass, it feels like we are replacing the “showing” part of life with the “telling” part. It’s passive, it’s dull, but boy is it safe! – L
The biggest thing they did, in three months, was to put together little bags of snacks with a small craft, that an adult then delivered to a nursing home. Mind you, they didn’t actually cook anything — no measuring, using the stove or oven, etc. — they just put snacks in bags. Sigh. – Lisa