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Izzy Skenazy, back when he rode the subway alone as a 9 year old.

Comments By a Nervous Mom After Hearing My Speech

Readers — A mom sent this to me after hearing my talk. (To book me, see my lenorespeaks.com page.) What I appreciate about this note is how hard it is to counter the constant fear  we’ve been conditioned to feel, and how brave and bracing it is to start fighting back. – L. Dear Lenore […]

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Redshirting: To postpone entrance into a program by age-eligible students.

Redshirting Kindergarteners…and College Grads

Readers — This mom notices a continuum I’d missed! – L.  Dear Free Range Kids: Lately I have noticed 2 trends that I believe relate to helicoptering. My son will be 5 in late July.  The cutoff in our state for Kindergarten is “age 5 prior to August 1.”  My son has been screened by […]

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Let them bloom and grow...

Unsupervised Kids at the Park: Tomorrow and Forever

Readers, tomorrow is Take Our Children to the Park…and Leave Them There Day, our fifth annual celebration of the once very normal, unremarkable activity called KIDS PLAYING WITH OTHER KIDS, without a security detail. To celebrate, just take or send your children, generally about age 7 and up, to your local park at around 10 […]

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Child's play?

When Adults Take Over Children’s Fun

Readers — This is part of a “rant” from over at BabyCenter. It struck a chord (and not just because it’s partly about piano recitals). As you may know, I am smitten with the work of Peter Gray about how playing (i.e., doing something “just” for fun) is the key to learning. I also loved […]

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To catch a predator...while driving a bus.

New School Bus Comes with “Predator Finder”

Readers — It’s weird enough when we are warned that our bumper stickers are busy attracting predators. Now there is a new line of school bus that videos the cars behind it, on the bizarre assumption that these may be driven by predators so unsure of where else to find a child that they are […]

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Helicoptered Kids Only?

Teen Who Got into All 8 Ivies Credits “Helicopter Parents”

Hi Readers — Kwasi Enin, a Long Island, NY, high school senior who got into all the Ivies credits his “helicopter parents” for pushing him to excel. So does this mean that helicopter = success and, possibly, Free-Range = failure? Of course I don’t think so. Here’s why. 1  – First is the fact that […]

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Remember: Nothing is safe and your kids are under constant threat.

The “Toxic” Garden Hose?

Readers, This is an excerpt from the book, “From Cupcakes to Chemicals: How the Culture of Alarmism Makes us Afraid of Everything and How to Fight Back,” by Julie Gunlock (her real name — not a political statement!).  I love this book for its smart, funny look at the excessive fears foisted upon parents, forcing us […]

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Girls -- stand back! There's a fire!

Whose Idea Was it That Children are Fragile and Stupid?

Readers — Over and over I keep realizing how grateful kids are when we lean OUT of their lives a little and let them show us how competent they really are. I love this letter! – L.  Dear Free-Range Kids: I stumbled on your site when a backpacking guide friend asked me what approach she […]

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