Almost every time I’m interviewed about “Why
Since I think the interviewer can pretty much guess how I’d feel, it finally occurred to me that this is not a question — it’s an accusation. “How would you have felt…” is code for, “How come you weren’t thinking about how terrible you’d feel, knowing the role YOU played in this easily preventable tragedy?”
Parents are constantly exhorted not just to imagine the worst possible thing that could happen to their kids if they let them wait in the car/walk to school/sleep on a non-organic mattress. They are also supposed to imagine the guilt that would consume them forever.
Which is a long, super-somber way of saying what the Onion just said so perfectly:
Report: U.S. Parents’ Top Concern Is Child Dying From Something They Could Be Blamed For
WASHINGTON―According to a Pew Research Center report published Tuesday, the number-one worry among mothers and fathers in all parts of the country is their child dying from something they could be blamed for as parents. “When surveyed, the majority of American parents said their single greatest fear was the death of their child, namely from some cause that could ultimately be traced back to them,” the report read in part, before noting that many parents in the U.S. frequently lie awake at night worrying about the unthinkable happening to their son or daughter and causing the public to look upon them as criminally liable for their death…
Read the rest here (darn short). Or tell us about a time you watched anticipatory guilt play out. – L.