Readers — It is downright BIZARRE that we have criminalized normal behavior that’s consensual. That’s what has happened to teens who have sex, write Shelly Snow, author of the blog With Justice for All:
Dear Free-Range Kids: I just finished reading your birthday blog, and I realized, as I have before, that much that you advocate for is “the way it used to be.” It hit me so strong because I have just had an interesting–to say the least–commenting exchange on an article. I was trying to make the point of the necessity to distinguish between a statutory-but-otherwise-consensual situation, and a forced rape. I wrote:
…I started dating my first husband when I was a couple of months from 16 and he was 22. We marriedÂ when I was 16 and he was 23. Pre-marital sex had not been part of the equation, but no one knew that. When we married, our friends all assumed I was pregnant.
The years in between then and now have brought massive changes in society’s and the government’s insistence that we protect our children to the point that today’s kids are virtually unable to do anything for themselves. We pretend that kids don’t have sex while all the while they are bombarded with sexual imagery from everything in their world, and when they do have sex, the law requires that someone has committed a crime.
Your parents should have been jailed for inappropriate parenting. You do not allow a 16 year old to date a 22 year old. Your parents were criminals.