Author: lskenazy

Take your blood pressure medicine before watching  this  so-called public service announcement  . The spot shows two women  in a coffee shop, one of them with her kid. The three chat  for about 15 seconds, the mom buys a coffee and then off the mom and child go, leaving  the other woman — for no apparent reason — with a sneaking suspicion that the mom is a child abuser. The mom  has said nothing harsh to her child. The child is communicative and bears no visible bruises. In other words, the mom and child look like me and my child,…

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Hi Readers! If you’d like to write a letter of support for the parents who let their 9-  and 6-year-olds wait in the car for half an hour, only to have the dad be charged with child endangerment (see blog entry, below), here is the email address for the Utica Observe Dispatch’s  letters to the  editor page:   ddudajek@uticaod.com  . Thanks! — Lenore

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First off, my heart goes out to Jaycee Dugard, her daughters, her parents, step-parents  — everyone in her circle. She was kidnapped 18 years ago and kept imprisoned since then, bearing her rapist/captor two daughters who were also imprisoned until a few days ago, when Jaycee walked into a police station. This is, of course, every parent’s — every human’s — worst nightmare and her story will   be seared into our  memory   forever, along, alas,  with the inevitable “advice” we’re now getting on how to avoid this same fate. Advice that makes it seem like abduction/rape/enslavement   is…

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Hi Readers! My friend Bob Eckstein, a cartoonist for The New Yorker (la-di-dah!), came up with this Free-Range Cartoon: a plea for a little less parental intrusion. Besides being a whole-hearted supporter of this site, Bob has his own obsession. Snowmen. Yes, really — he is the first and only person to study their history. Did you know, for instance, that in pre-printing press Europe, snowmen were  the editorials of their day? A  wag might  erect a prostitute snow-woman, for instance, in front of the  mayor’s  house, as a way of hinting at certain improprieties. The perp remained anonymous and…

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Readers — Here is a story that does not surprise me. It does, however, enrage me and I am hoping that maybe someone who reads this blog knows of a pro bono lawyer in or around Mohawk Valley in Central New York who can help this family. Here is the mom’s letter: I’m not sure if we did something wrong here or not, and I feel myself being pulled every which way. But the morning we left our nine-year-old daughter with our sleeping six-year-old son in a car in a busy parking lot (windows open), we really thought they’d be…

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This is just too weird: Maine passed a law, about to take effect, that forbids stores from allowing any “child” to witness a wine, beer or  liquor tasting. According to this piece on the Maine Public Broadcasting Website: …as of September 12th, the law will add new restrictions, designed to assure that wine tastings are conducted in a manner that “precludes the possibility of observation by children.”   Hudson [a wine shop owner] says she was unclear what that meant, so she asked a liquor inspector whether she could simply draw the blinds over her doors and windows during a…

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Hi Readers — We’ve been spending today thinking about what it would mean to be the youngest person to sail solo around the world. In other words, about great success and whether it is worth the peril. Here’s a nice sermon from a pastor named John F. Hudson in Sherborn, Mass., about the value of  the opposite:  failure. Since I have a  whole chapter in my book called, “Fail! It’s The New ‘Succeed!” it naturally appealed to me. Main points?  Defeats and detours can take us to the best  places. Life isn’t meant to be a straight line anyway.  …

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Ahoy, Readers! Today’s “Free-Range” controversy concerns Laura Dekker, a 13-year-old   in Holland who is already an accomplished sailor and now wants to become the youngest person to sail solo around the world. Her parents — or at least her dad, with whom she lives — is all for it. The Dutch equivalent of Child Protective Services is against it and currently seeking legal permission to step in, take temporary custody of the girl and stop her. In other words: They want to ground her. (Literally!) And I am with them. Does this sail in the face of the Free-Range…

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Dear Readers: You may recall that last week, Dear Abby passed along the  advice that children take a walkie talkie every time they enter a public restroom so they can call mom when they get molested.  Since this is a common fear, I asked a child abuse specialist if this is also a common occurence. Of the 500 children this pediatrician had treated for sex abuse, NONE had been  abused by a stranger in a bathroom. So Abby’s advice was a little alarmist, to say the least. That same day, Abby ran a note from another reader that said we…

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