A dad whose 6-year-old wanted Nutella for her pancakes on a recent Saturday morning made a deal: I’ll drive you to the grocery if you go in by yourself and buy the stuff.
This is about a straightforward an activity as can be and I posted the dad’s brief write-up of it over at Let Grow. In ANY OTHER ERA this would seem about as weird as publishing a post like, “Dad allows child to eat sandwich.” Or, “Child manages to open door, exit house.”
BUT BUT BUT…
Today we expect SO LITTLE of kids when it comes to real world skills that the girl’s Nutella excursion IS instructive. I hope it will inspire other parents to try something similar and see how simple it is. How expecting almost nothing of kids leaves them with almost no idea of how capable they could be.
At a conference earlier this week for P.E. and health teachers, I spoke to so many educators who have neurotypical kids in their class who can’t tie their own shoes. It was like a thing — one would mention it and others would nod along.
Our kids are EAGER to be competent, confident, and trusted. That requires us to trust them with the chance to do some things on their own.
These can involve Nutella, or not.
But maybe that’s a good place to start.
Photo of Sohpia Montag, Nutella procurer.