A note I got:
Free-Range Kids: I need help and an answer to what I should do.I’m 14 and I feel like I’m living in hell everyday of my life… My mum and my dad never let me out to play with my friends because they think that they are a bad influence on me. The only times i’m allowed to go outside are to walk to my cousin’s house a couple of blocks away, and that’s only every 2 weeks! I am allowed to walk to a shop which is nearby if I want to get anything to eat, but that’s basically it. I’m losing friends’ because when they come over and knock at my house and ask me if we could play, I have to reply saying ‘no’ which makes it very hard for me to sustain a good friendship.ÂMy life is just sitting on the computer and watch people play video games on Youtube, I just need advice on what to do please!
I replied: DearÂ ,Â Hmm. What I’ve seen that changes parents is a reality check. They sort of have to be shocked into realizing their kids are not helpless babies anymore. This happens when they actually see their kids do something without their help or supervision that makes them — the parents — proud. So: Any chance you could make them dinner or run an errand for them or do something FOR them that shows them how safe and competent you are when doing some little thing on your own?
Yes please it hasn’t worked, I asked my mom once again if I could go to the park maybe once with my friends and she gave me a lecture on how it’s not safe, but I try to remind her that I’m 14 years old and more than capable of taking care of myself. I really feel sad how all my friends get to go and I don’t, it’s summer break right now in the UK, and seeing all those kids having fun outside just really hurts me. The same thing goes for my cousins, even they aren’t allowed to go anywhere they like. Â Although they have siblings which I do not have, someone who they can talk to and play with inside, 🙁
So, readers, any advice for this young Brit?