Pitchforks are so 19th century. Today’s righteous mobs wield cell phone videos and Facebook likes.
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video of a baby whose mom did not drag him into the gas station for a short errand, causing some modern day “hero” to whip out his cell phone, start videotaping, and swear about what a horrible mother this “bitch” is. When she returns, he curses her to her face. And since he made sure to videotape the mom’s license plate, now she is being investigated by the authorities.
And of course his video, which he posted on Facebook, has gone viral (2.5 million views) and inspired “investigative” reporting:
If this isn’t an example of what the University of California Irvine researchers recently discovered about our judgment of moms, I don’t know what is.
Their study found that we are overestimating the danger of unsupervised children because we believe no decent mom would EVER take her eyes off her kids. And once we have judged a mom as immoral, that judgment makes us unconsciously amp up the amount of danger we truly believe the child to be in: a feedback loop of self-righteousness. It’s an amazing study. Read about it here.
But the problem we must deal with is this: People not only judge parents, they get off on hating them. It gives them a moral high.
This is what Theodore Dalrymple describes as “toxic sentimentality.” That’s when people believe that they are so tenderhearted, they are morally superior to anyone who is not excessively outraged by any perceived danger, especially to a child. And that allows them to get out the pitchforks. They get two thrills for the price of one: Despising a person they deem morally inferior, and feeling morally superior for that hate.
The description of Dalrymple’s book includes this perfect line:
Theodore Dalrymple unmasks the hidden sentimentality that is suffocating public life. Under the multiple guises of raising children well…and doing good generally, we are achieving quite the opposite — for the single purpose of feeling good about ourselves.
Not that all concern for children and the less fortunate is selfish, of course. Just that when you see people screaming about how tenderhearted they are, check to see what they do next: Offer to actually help? Or get out the pitchfork/videocamera? – L