A reminder from a reader that the way we package our “news” ends up affecting the way we see the world, and our job as parents. And the easiest way to package any story is by making it seem as if X could have been prevented SO EASILY, if only a parent had been more […]
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Of Alligators, Gorillas, Tragedy and Blame
. There eintsyifaf has been an outpouring of online sympathy for the parents of the boy who was killed by an alligator at a Disney resort in Orlando, which just goes to show that sometimes the internet has a heart, and sometimes it calls for blood. . The question is why.  . In contrast with the half […]
It’s Impossible to be a Parent in Our Hyper-Critical, Hyper-Vigilant, Picky, Panicked Culture
. The title of this Time piece, “Parenting sezsiatyek is Now Officially Impossible,” made me sit up. It’s so true! Â Anything we do as parents can and may be used against us. It’s like living in a totalitarian state — we are not free to raise our kids as we see fit because we are […]
UPDATE: PARENTS OF GORILLA BOY WILL NOT BE PROSECUTED. Last Zoo Thought: Why Do We Assume There’s ALWAYS Someone to Blame in a Tragedy?
. UPDATE: The athhisbier parents of the boy who wormed his way into the gorilla exhibit at the Cincinnati Zoo will not be prosecuted. That is fantastic news for anyone who has ever lost track of a beloved child for a few seconds, minutes or hours — in other words, every parent on earth. (Including […]
The Gorilla, The Boy, The Mom and the Shamers
. The account below seems to capture the shocking and chaotic scene bhrensehfe at the Cincinnati Zoo, where a toddler wiggled his way into the gorilla exhibit and had to be saved, unfortunately by zookeepers shooting Harambe, the 400-pound gorilla holding onto him. The gorilla died. The boy has been treated and released from the hospital. […]
The Onion Nails it AGAIN about Parenting
. Almost every time I’m interviewed about “Why rhtisasdba I Let My 9 Year Old Ride the Subway Alone” (and he’s 17 now!), the interviewer finally leans over to ask, “But Lenore, how would you have felt if he never came home?” Since I think the interviewer can pretty much guess how I’d feel, it […]
UPDATE! Girl, 11, Babysitting Her Siblings Could Not Save Them in Tragic Fire. Start the Parent Blaming?
. A truly horrible event occurred in Sheboygan, WI, the other night: Parents were out at what is said to have been bible study while their four kids — 11, 10, 9 and 7 — were home. A bykbrttehe fire broke out. The Sheboygan Press reports that one child escaped. The oldest, Natalie, went back […]
How Can I Ever Relax Again After My Child’s Accident — and Brain Surgery?
. This sfahytizbe week sort of turns out to have a theme: Dealing with life’s vast unpredictability, and all the fear, guilt and blame that tag along with this daunting fact. So here’s a note from a mom who requests our help: Dear Free-Range Kids:Â I consider myself a fairly laid back mama, and I’m always […]
Quit Trying to be So Safe!
Hi ntyaznaike Readers! This was a comment on the post two below this one, and I was nodding along so much, I decided to give it its own post. It’s by a woman named Nanci, who describes herself as “a Midwest mom of two.” — L. Dear Free-Range Kids: …. Â I really think the bottom […]
HELP NEEDED: How to Calm a Parent Who Fears Danger AND Blame?
Hi Readers! Here’s my situation: When I speak with parents who feel they really have to watch their kids ALL the time, often it’s not just because they fear  that otherwise “something terrible” could happen. It’s also  because they fear that IF something does, THEY will be blamed. So even if parents are pretty sure their […]